You are a beautiful woman of the Lord. You are highly favored by God. You are part of a Royal Priesthood, a Holy Nation (1 Peter 2:9). You were set apart before the creation of time to rock the world for Christ (Jer 1:5).
However, you are ripping apart God’s creation with your Spirit of Perfectionism.
Now, I can see you in my head, shaking your head and saying, “No, I believe in excellence. I do everything wholeheartedly unto the Lord.”
Sweet girl, that is so true. But in that truth, Satan has begun to tinker.
Let’s look at the Christmas Party…
It was beautiful and people’s lives were truly changed.
Did you allow your spirit to relax and be open to His movement or was a part of you constantly scanning the room–looking for problems. Did you constantly feel like there was a heavy weight on your shoulders to make sure everything was done right?
Are you tired? I don’t think you slept last night because you were still working on projects. Perfectionists are procrastinators because they want to make sure they do everything right. If there isn’t enough time they wait until there is enough. Then, when it is the last minute, they have to get it done so they work like maniacs. Remember how you told your family they were on their own for dinner because you had to work? Ugly P word again…They suffered because you waited.
Now, all the jobs were divided up. Did you trust those people to do their job or were you constantly checking on them? You see perfectionists hate group projects because they can’t insure (or control) everyone else to make sure it is done in the way they like. In fact, they will often volunteer to do the work of 3 or 4 just so they can “do it right.”
Now, you wouldn’t outwardly show this, but did you see a few people and “check them off your list” knowing they could never get the job done right? Perfectionists have exaggerated standards that it truly is not possible to meet those standards. When someone fails to meet these once, perfectionists will just dismiss them forever as incompetent.
Sweetie, I can see that light bulb going off and you are starting to beat yourself up.
That, too, is a sign of perfectionism.
At its very base, it is rooted in two very different things–poor self image and pride.
You try to do everything better than everyone else. You do anything not to fail because you fear you will be judged by others. At the same time, you are judging everyone else–focusing on their faults–to make yourself feel better. It’s weird. It’s a total contradiction, but it is the truth.
Part of you likes this. You like being viewed as “Superwoman,” working like crazy (only because you waited until the last minute). You love the praise.
It’s only temporary. It’s praise from man which is fickle and can quickly turn to condemnation.
You were created for more than this. You were created to fellowship with Him. Eph 4:22-24 commands us to cast off the old self (filled with pride and self doubt) and put on our new self.
Dear girl, God desires your heart–not your perfect parties.
Pretty please, repent of the perfectionism. Heal. And tell Sebastian in The Little Mermaid that if you want something done right, you can’t do it yourself.
P.S. I don’t want to spoil any of the surprise gifts God has for you, but on your second move, please take the dishwasher with you. It is a rare gem.
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