When you are in ministry, you realize early on that things don’t stay in the 8-5 realm. You commit to a lifestyle. We actually took a couple out to lunch that day. You see, they were leaving town and that was the date that worked. Of course, we planned ahead and celebrated on Friday night. JT was able to join us. It was special as usual.
What do you remember most about your wedding day?
Ha – I just chuckled. It was actually a pretty stressful day. I remember washing off my make-up and reapplying it as fast as I could. It made me arrive a little later than I wanted to. Why did I say yes to the sweet make-up artist, and why didn’t she leave right away? I will also say that family dynamics were interesting…to put it nicely. Makes me laugh now. Our guests were probably busy talking after they left. Oh well.
Did you go on a honeymoon? Where did you go?
That made me chuckle as well. We had a romantic trip planned to Ouray, Colorado. My newlywed husband told me that we should visit the Urgent Care prior to leaving town. I didn’t know that he was not 100%. On the first night of our stay, he was on fire (I mean literally – FEVER). His young bride was not sure what to do. I prayed a lot that night and kept putting ice-filled cloths on him. Long night! We came home early, because he could not walk due to an infection that had settled in his leg from a small cut. CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT?
What has been the most rewarding part of being married? The most challenging?
Most rewarding: That we have served God since the very beginning. The day we were engaged, he shared his heart with me (his vision), I felt so special. We have been busy fulfilling it ever since. Of course, bringing two awesome boys into this world is the icing on the cake.
The most challenging: Living in a fishbowl. I will be honest –there have been times that I wanted to sit on the last row of the church instead of the first (especially the times when Carl and I just had a spat). There have been times that I wanted to wear jeans like everyone else. Also, just being honest about all of my feelings has been another challenge as well (communication). Why is it so hard to be humble instead of prideful?
I would say that I was a serious Jesus-project for the early part of our marriage. I was so insecure and Carl was… well, so Godly. He challenged me, to the core of my being, without saying a word. He prayed and read God’s word more than anyone I knew, or probably know. Where would I be without Jesus and Carl Toti? As for me influencing him, I guess I would say…oooohhhh –that’s a hard one!