Often, during waiting seasons we think that we just have to wait the amount of time that God says and then it will be over. But let me tell you from experience—it is so much more fruitful, and even fun, to lean into the learning process instead of dreading it until it’s over.
I remember my season of singleness very well because it was not that long ago. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, but before that, I had a lot to learn. I needed to know who I was in Christ before I tried to bring someone else into the mix. This is probably one of the wisest decisions I have made in my walk with God.
God told me to wait an entire year before dating someone else, in July of 2023. I obeyed, and I think it’s also important to note that I told other people what I felt God was asking me to do so they could hold me accountable. I knew it was going to be hard to wait a whole year to date—especially since I ended up meeting my now-boyfriend three months into that year. LOL… talk about a trial!
Throughout the year, I leaned into friendships, mentors, and my church community. It was such a pure and refining year for me. I also read books about healthy relationships and asked so many questions I never would have thought to ask otherwise. Soon, the dreaded year-long wait turned into one of the best years of my life. It was fruitful and fun!
Reflecting on that year, I’ve learned what it looks like to steward your life according to God’s standard. It made me rethink some decisions, slow down, and work through personal things that needed checking in on.
I know waiting is often dreaded, but it doesn’t have to be. When God speaks and tells us what He wants us to do, it’s not for our punishment—it’s for our good. God loves us so much, and He always knows what’s best.
I challenge you to let go of your limited human mindset and lean into God’s eternal plan. It is so much greater because HE is so much greater!
