I used to think I was the only one who felt insecure about entering a room with people I didn’t know.
Can you imagine that? For those who really know me you are probably nodding your head in disbelief. That’s not who I am today.
Now I wonder how I allowed the enemy to convince me of something so ridiculous.
Perhaps, it was due to the fact that insecurity, fear, and loneliness were influencing me – they were considered my best friends.
I’m sure you heard me say that I thought I was the only one with these deep struggles.
It makes me laugh today.
The only one, really?!
I’m ashamed to say that I actually believed the enemy when he said I didn’t belong in some circles of society.
Seriously devil, nice try!
I love being honest with you. It shows God has done a work in my heart, and He is redeeming my story.
I truly thought everyone was confident, and I was in the percentage of humans who would always struggle to meet new people because I was not enough, and I would miss out on most of living because I trained myself to live in the corners of life.
When asked if I wanted to attend events where new people would look my way, it made my head swim in the scary river. You know what my answer was.
Hence, I would always find a way to have a full schedule and then I would casually bow out. I hated the feeling of being left behind. I didn’t want to say no, it just felt easier to say no thank you than to begin to conquer my fear of doing hard things.
Now, fast forward my life. I get it when I invite women to the events planned for the women of our community and/or the life groups our team has hosted over the years, and I feel that many say no thank you because it’s scary to them.
They don’t know what they would say to other women. Have you ever been to an event where you just stare around the room in order to keep others from asking you anything.
The eye connection exercise is on – we avoid our eyes making a connection for more than one millisecond. How do I know these details so well? Because I had a lot of practice.
If we only knew how much we are alike than different, we wouldn’t run away. We would run to each other.
It’s amazing how many of us believe the lie that others have it all together, and we don’t have strengths like they do.
Here let me contrast the lie to the truth for you – ready?
LIE: The enemy tells us we should hide our stuff because people can’t know the real version of our life with all the ups and downs, struggles, fears, and failures. Then he adds some advice: Keep your story to yourself and just pretend all is well. Sound familiar?
TRUTH: We all struggle. We all have ups and downs in life. Everyone has a story and God wants to redeem every bit of it. We are better together. We are all sinners who have fallen short of the glory of God.
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